The idea of having a baby scares me. What if my child is horrible? | Dear Mariella

Parents often wish they’d been more aware of the massive impact of having a child, but few regret doing it, says Mariella Frostrup

The dilemma I am terrified of having children. Not childbirth, but the thought of potentially bringing up absolutely horrible kids.

I recently entered my late 20s and have been married to my older, lovely, husband for more than a year. When we first met we dreamed of our future family, but I feel the older I get the more comfortable and happy I am in my carefree, albeit selfish, life. He, on the other hand, cannot wait to be a father. Yet all I read and hear about, all day, every day, is how horrendously hard parenting is. And how a woman loses not only her identity, but her body, soul and spirit, and then also the intimacy of her partner.

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